The Miner's who seek fool's gold!
The following article was posted by Jennifer Fernicola in the Chicago Now blogroll.
The formal complaint can be read HERE.
There are four or more sides to this story. That of the children, the mother, the father, and now-the courts. Do these, now grown, children have a valid complaint? Do they deserve to be paid for what they deem as emotional distress and neglect? Have they been in any way mistreated to the point that the courts should have to intercede here? Is there any ONE party in this matter any more wrong or right than the other?
Read what THE FRIENDS have to say and let us know what YOU think!
Admittedly, I have not read every single word of the original complaint folks, so take this with a grain of salt and forgive me if I'm missing something. I am afraid. Seriously afraid for the future of our country. We are becoming increasingly litigious as our senses of individual entitlement grow. Parents absolutely have a responsibility to care for their children, both financially and emotionally. Furthermore, parents should make efforts to make sure each child feels loved. However, this does not mean that children should always recieve "equal" treatment, only equitable. Buying or doing something for one child does not now obligate a parent to do the same for the other children. Different circumstances sometimes necessitate different treatment. Also, sometimes parents really do grow, as well, and may adjust their treatment based on their new understanding of things. I have a younger brother who gets TONS of breaks that I never did. He got a car in high school, along with much much more freedom. But there were also differences in terms of society at that point, my parents' financial situation was even better, and my parents were also both in different careers at that point, which caused them to view things a little differently than when I was growing up. My parents bought me two different cars over my lifetime, whereas my older brother only got one. Should he now sue my mother for unfair treatment?
When parents are wrong, they're wrong. And some parents are just plain lousy. But at what point do these kids need to get over it? If the Miner children have been successful in life in spite of what they consider harsh, unfair treatment, GREAT! Celebrate your success instead of slumping in the past. Put on your big girl/boy panties and press on!
She
There are not enough words to describe the level of nonsense that has transpired in this family. After reading this complaint-the issues that NEED to be brought to light have been swept under the rug. In this complaint and in the whole case regarding these children and their "emotional distress", I'm going to have to say the parents have created most of this drama. They have spent so much time sending each other letters back and forth trying to decide who is going to pay for who and involving the courts that the actual RAISING of the children did not happen!
I'm not sure that you will find many if ANY people who feel like the complaints that the children have set forth here are worth taking to court for an emotional distress complaint. I also have a hard time comprehending why a mental health professional would recommend that the children be split up, and I also have NO IDEA why the mother was allowed any kind of time with the children when it states in this complaint that SHE had inappropriate relations with her SON! So why are the issues being brought up mostly based on money? Yes, there are plenty of references to mental health care and the ongoing treatment-but it seems the points being highlighted are based on the payment of these treatments. Are we really putting forth in a complaint that the mother pays exactly $9.99 for payment instead of $10.00?
She paid child support continuously, and as a mother who receives child support for my child, I believe that when the court sets forth an amount that is IT. The other parent doesn't HAVE to pay anything above or beyond what is set forth by the court. It also shows here that the father opted NOT to have Child Support Services involved and took money directly from the mother. If he had a concern with the amount of money she paid, then he should have utilized their services and he should have taken up issue with the amount of money being paid at the time it presented itself as a problem.
I don't believe that these kids are half as emotionally distressed as they think they are. I see parent(s) who took an opportunity to blame their short comings on circumstance. There are plenty of children and successful adults who have had to endure much worse fates because of and leading up to divorce. Including mental health professionals is an excellent step forward IF you are going to also commit to the emotional support that is needed at home.
Steven and Kathryn, let me give you some advice: when you have problems in your life-look for some guidance-not a damn lawyer. Life isn't about lawsuits and copays. You should talk to your mental health counselors about how to DEAL with your circumstances and turn your TESTS into a TESTIMONY.
At some point, what I'm saying has a lot to do with one's spiritual beliefs and FAITH. In the complaint, it denotes that they have had a pastoral counselor through all of this. Now instead of assuming that this was for an agreeable opinion from the court, I will assume that you both believe in God in some way. Start THERE. Nothing happened to any of us that was not supposed to happen as directed directly in his plan for our lifes. The strength you gain is worth more than any sum of money.
I'm at a loss for words that after witnessing what he deems as such a terrible period, that the father is listed as counsel on this case! So to Steve Miner Sr., I genuinely hope that you are not in practice in the area of family law. Because if you are-I feel for the families that actually need guidance and are being led by you to pursue the money at the children's expense. Maybe personal injury would be better for you-because you sure are chasing the WAHHHH-mbulance on this one.
And Kimberly Garrity-if you abused your son-there's a special place in hell for you. Being molested by someone you trust and love will ruin your relationships forever, until you forgive that person, yourself, and understand that what happened to you is just a circumstance of your life, it does not WIN. However, based on the actions of your son-he doesn't understand any of the three of those things-not EVEN CLOSE.
I think if the children are emotionally distressed, there are much better ways to try to get retribution. Unfortunately, instead of taking what they have learned from this situation and being better than their own circumstances, I predict that his cycle will be repeated long before it's broken. If slapping your kid in the head and threatening a visit to the police is enough to be taken to court-I am guilty and not ashamed! I am not raising another body to be placed in our criminal justice system...I am not raising a child that will expect anything BUT to be blessed by the grace of God in his own circumstance...I am not raising a child that will have his hand out because his feelings got hurt.
There's a lot of hurt, there's a lot of pain, there's a lot of confusion in this whole mess. But I have to be honest and tell you that from the outside looking in...what I really see is four IDIOTS.
Moni
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8-31-09 Miner's Vs Garrity
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Two adult children are suing their biological mother for intentional and negligent infliction of emotional distress that they say occurred over a period of more than 14 years.
Steven A. Miner II is 21 years old and Kathryn R. Miner is 18. Together, they are suing their mother Kimberly A. Garrity in a complaint that details years of alleged mistreatment, including the following:
- Garrity will invite one child to an event without inviting the other.
- Garrity would purchase things for Kathryn without purchasing anything for Steven.
- Garrity offered to provide college financial assistence to Steven and not Kathryn.
- Garrity did not provide Christmas or birthday gifts to Steven from 1996 through 2005 or Kathryn in 2007.
- When Steven took back a popsicle jewelry box he made Garrity, she called the police because she asserted there was a diamond necklace in it.
- Garrity told Steven that if he didn't wear his seatbelt, she would drive to a local police station and tell the cops.
- Garrity smacked Steven on the head for no reason in 1994.
- Garrity did not provide "so much as a care package to Steven while he was away at college, while other parents send their children items and packages on a continuous basis."
- Garrity "refused to assist Kathryn with the purchase of a dress but, provided Kathryn with the use of an automobile for homecoming; and then proceeded to contact her at midnight while she was with her friends and made her return the automobile."
The formal complaint can be read HERE.
There are four or more sides to this story. That of the children, the mother, the father, and now-the courts. Do these, now grown, children have a valid complaint? Do they deserve to be paid for what they deem as emotional distress and neglect? Have they been in any way mistreated to the point that the courts should have to intercede here? Is there any ONE party in this matter any more wrong or right than the other?
Read what THE FRIENDS have to say and let us know what YOU think!
Admittedly, I have not read every single word of the original complaint folks, so take this with a grain of salt and forgive me if I'm missing something. I am afraid. Seriously afraid for the future of our country. We are becoming increasingly litigious as our senses of individual entitlement grow. Parents absolutely have a responsibility to care for their children, both financially and emotionally. Furthermore, parents should make efforts to make sure each child feels loved. However, this does not mean that children should always recieve "equal" treatment, only equitable. Buying or doing something for one child does not now obligate a parent to do the same for the other children. Different circumstances sometimes necessitate different treatment. Also, sometimes parents really do grow, as well, and may adjust their treatment based on their new understanding of things. I have a younger brother who gets TONS of breaks that I never did. He got a car in high school, along with much much more freedom. But there were also differences in terms of society at that point, my parents' financial situation was even better, and my parents were also both in different careers at that point, which caused them to view things a little differently than when I was growing up. My parents bought me two different cars over my lifetime, whereas my older brother only got one. Should he now sue my mother for unfair treatment?
When parents are wrong, they're wrong. And some parents are just plain lousy. But at what point do these kids need to get over it? If the Miner children have been successful in life in spite of what they consider harsh, unfair treatment, GREAT! Celebrate your success instead of slumping in the past. Put on your big girl/boy panties and press on!
She
There are not enough words to describe the level of nonsense that has transpired in this family. After reading this complaint-the issues that NEED to be brought to light have been swept under the rug. In this complaint and in the whole case regarding these children and their "emotional distress", I'm going to have to say the parents have created most of this drama. They have spent so much time sending each other letters back and forth trying to decide who is going to pay for who and involving the courts that the actual RAISING of the children did not happen!
I'm not sure that you will find many if ANY people who feel like the complaints that the children have set forth here are worth taking to court for an emotional distress complaint. I also have a hard time comprehending why a mental health professional would recommend that the children be split up, and I also have NO IDEA why the mother was allowed any kind of time with the children when it states in this complaint that SHE had inappropriate relations with her SON! So why are the issues being brought up mostly based on money? Yes, there are plenty of references to mental health care and the ongoing treatment-but it seems the points being highlighted are based on the payment of these treatments. Are we really putting forth in a complaint that the mother pays exactly $9.99 for payment instead of $10.00?
She paid child support continuously, and as a mother who receives child support for my child, I believe that when the court sets forth an amount that is IT. The other parent doesn't HAVE to pay anything above or beyond what is set forth by the court. It also shows here that the father opted NOT to have Child Support Services involved and took money directly from the mother. If he had a concern with the amount of money she paid, then he should have utilized their services and he should have taken up issue with the amount of money being paid at the time it presented itself as a problem.
I don't believe that these kids are half as emotionally distressed as they think they are. I see parent(s) who took an opportunity to blame their short comings on circumstance. There are plenty of children and successful adults who have had to endure much worse fates because of and leading up to divorce. Including mental health professionals is an excellent step forward IF you are going to also commit to the emotional support that is needed at home.
Steven and Kathryn, let me give you some advice: when you have problems in your life-look for some guidance-not a damn lawyer. Life isn't about lawsuits and copays. You should talk to your mental health counselors about how to DEAL with your circumstances and turn your TESTS into a TESTIMONY.
At some point, what I'm saying has a lot to do with one's spiritual beliefs and FAITH. In the complaint, it denotes that they have had a pastoral counselor through all of this. Now instead of assuming that this was for an agreeable opinion from the court, I will assume that you both believe in God in some way. Start THERE. Nothing happened to any of us that was not supposed to happen as directed directly in his plan for our lifes. The strength you gain is worth more than any sum of money.
I'm at a loss for words that after witnessing what he deems as such a terrible period, that the father is listed as counsel on this case! So to Steve Miner Sr., I genuinely hope that you are not in practice in the area of family law. Because if you are-I feel for the families that actually need guidance and are being led by you to pursue the money at the children's expense. Maybe personal injury would be better for you-because you sure are chasing the WAHHHH-mbulance on this one.
And Kimberly Garrity-if you abused your son-there's a special place in hell for you. Being molested by someone you trust and love will ruin your relationships forever, until you forgive that person, yourself, and understand that what happened to you is just a circumstance of your life, it does not WIN. However, based on the actions of your son-he doesn't understand any of the three of those things-not EVEN CLOSE.
I think if the children are emotionally distressed, there are much better ways to try to get retribution. Unfortunately, instead of taking what they have learned from this situation and being better than their own circumstances, I predict that his cycle will be repeated long before it's broken. If slapping your kid in the head and threatening a visit to the police is enough to be taken to court-I am guilty and not ashamed! I am not raising another body to be placed in our criminal justice system...I am not raising a child that will expect anything BUT to be blessed by the grace of God in his own circumstance...I am not raising a child that will have his hand out because his feelings got hurt.
There's a lot of hurt, there's a lot of pain, there's a lot of confusion in this whole mess. But I have to be honest and tell you that from the outside looking in...what I really see is four IDIOTS.
Moni
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