The Friends' Community Service Project #3,457,987: Desperate Seeking Someone's

Today, the Friends' are going to take on a topic that seems to be flooding them all around. The Friends' are peers in many different ways. All of them professional professionalS in what they do, seeking to do better, be better, and get better. Some of the Friends' are newlyweds, some are in relationships, and some are single. But not ONE of them are DESPERATE!


Dictionary.com defines it as such:
adjective


1. reckless or dangerous because of despair or urgency: a desperate killer.


2. having an urgent need, desire, etc.: desperate for attention.


3. leaving little or no hope; very serious or dangerous: a desperate illness.


4. extremely bad; intolerable or shocking: clothes in desperate taste.


5. extreme or excessive.


6. making a final, ultimate effort; giving all: a desperate attempt to


save a life.


7. actuated by a feeling of hopelessness.


8. having no hope; giving in to despair.

Today, we are going to focus on desperation in wanting to have a partner, specifically in women. Some friends of the Friends' shared their encounters over text with such women. Women considered to be friend's with no promise of anything more. Now, you will see that some of the Friends' do not let them get away with this so easily, because the action is not in what they DO, but WHO we pick as friend's in the first place. The following is a string of text messages collected from different women-sent to men that they are not attached to, not seeing, and only considered FRIENDS with NO BENEFITS to the men they address.


Friend's Focus Factors:


"When and if u ever feel like having some1in ur life other than a friend and I'm not in left field at the time and meet ur high standards mayb that will work out differently"


"What the heck? Seriously I'm just fuckin wit u about anything happening between us I know what time it is. Never is never wit u! But at least u can feel good knowing sum1 tells u sweet things"


"Ok, I want a day and a night with u that's all. I'm asking for a mile but I think its do able if u down..."


"Hey I didn't get a last message. Please send it again today"


"What's up u just stop talking to me i couldn't even get i'll talk to u later, i'm busy i gets nothing from u"


"If u feel like talking later hit me up luv...if not sleep well and talk to ya in the am...sweet dreamin of sum white chocolate!!"




CLEARLY, we have some desperate attention whoring here. What is it that would cause a woman to get to this point? Self esteem issues? Self worth? Which definitions of desperation fit here? Is it THAT serious to have someone in your life? Isn't it clear here that these women don't love the one person they should? THEMSELF??


Friends',please address the issue. Let's help this cause-one desperate chick at a time.


Sadly, these messages are indicative of the growing plague known as desperation threatening to run rampant amongst our female population. Far too many ladies have bought into the idea of the man shortage and, in turn, have decided to sell themselves too cheap! At the end of the day, for both men and women, NOONE gets to decide your self-worth except you! Guys can only treat women as objects and have these come and go friends with benefits style 'relationships' if we, as ladies, choose to accept it. And in some of these situations the women are practically begging a man to use them! It is sad. It is desperate. It is unfortunate. It is unacceptable. I am willing to die alone and happy with my self-respect intact before I will live with some relationship that calls all of that into question. Why? Because we all deserve more; I'm just one of the women smart enough to know it. Ladies, do better.

She



Newlywed checking in! :)
Ladies we have GOT to do better. Stop playing yourself. There are ways to be coy and seductive and let your interests be known without reeking of desperation. And if he told you he only wanted to be friends, stop it. Because you will either become a bed buddy and/or end a friendship.

Let's see, I think I see definitions 2-8 working in overdrive here.

Let's go one by one:

"When and if u ever feel like having some1 in ur life other than a friend and I'm not in left field at the time and meet ur high standards mayb that will work out differently"

*Ok, I almost gave you a pass until you had to wave your flag of desperation and yell "PITY ME!" Come on now: meet your high standards blah blah blah. That's not a compliment, you are just trying too hard. Not cute. And why are you sending this via text? He must have told you he didn't want anybody (which is man code for I don't want you) yet you sent this bs anyway. Get therapy.

"What the heck? Seriously I'm just fuckin wit u about anything happening between us I know what time it is. Never is never wit u! But at least u can feel good knowing sum1 tells u sweet things"

*Don't try to get all angry now that your efforts at wooing him failed. You know you meant it. Shit just fell flat and you failed. And don't think that folks don't know that line at the end is you trying to flirt. Stop.

"Ok, I want a day and a night with u that's all. I'm asking for a mile but I think its do able if u down..."

*You want a 24 hour fling? It's asking for a mile? Who says this shit? He must have indicated he didn't want you. At this point you are throwing your snatch at him and that's just sad.

"Hey I didn't get a last message. Please send it again today"

*He didn't send a last message dummy. Don't try to use this to get him to reply. He is trying to ignore that simple mess to let you save face and let your friendship continue. He gave you a hint. Everybody else got it, but not you. Setting yourself up for failure because I can see you like to push shit.

"What's up u just stop talking to me i couldn't even get i'll talk to u later, i'm busy i gets nothing from u"

*This shit makes NO sense and you sound stupid. He doesn't feel like talking or he may be busy. Get a clue. Damn, his life does not revolve around instantly answering your messages. Pushy much?

"If u feel like talking later hit me up luv...if not sleep well and talk to ya in the am...sweet dreamin of sum white chocolate!!"

*Why do people feel like it's cute to spell things wrong in a text? You look stupid and everyone thinks less of you. Thanks for giving us electronic proof. And if he felt like hitting you up, he would have. He doesn't need your invitation.

You know what, I need a nap. I just can't deal with this kind of tomfoolery.

Good day
 
ItsJayRabBaby



Now, I really want to tell you that I'm sorry for what I am about to say, but that's a lie. I'd also like to tell you that I in some way feel sorry for these chicks and those of you like them, but that would also be a lie, and obviously you women have enough lies in your life-especially the ones you tell to yourself. Let's get to it!

"When and if u ever feel like having some1in ur life other than a friend and I'm not in left field at the time and meet ur high standards mayb that will work out differently"
I'm going to assign this to definition #2,4, 5, 6, 8.
Sweetheart, you are in left field NOW and the game is over!!  And did you seriously JUST admit that you are not up to someone's standards?  Where the hell are YOURS?  If you meet the standard for YOU, then that's all that matters.  Buy a cat.

"What the heck? Seriously I'm just fuckin wit u about anything
happening between us I know what time it is. Never is never wit u! But at least u can feel good knowing sum1 tells u sweet things"
Let's put definitions #2,3,4,5,6,8.
Really honey, you are not kidding with nobody.  You are clearly just upset cause he's not f*ckin' with YOU.  You don't know what time it is, because the time is for you to GET OVER IT.  If "never is never" why are you still hoping for EVER?  And you REALLY want some recognition because you say nice things to someone?  Obviously he hasn't said nice things to YOU.  Do me a favor, say this shit out loud before you send it.

"Ok, I want a day and a night with u that's all. I'm asking for a mile but I think its do able if u down..."
I'm just going to give this definition #5.  However instead of extreme, I'd like to just substitute the word EXTRA.
So basically, simpleton, you are saying that all you are worth to this man is one day and one night.  You REALIZE that this is a stretch?  ONE DAY?  You are not asking for a mile, you are asking to get treated like a community service ho.  Free ass for the taking-one day, one night.  Come one, come all.
You should put your services in 211...idiot.

"Hey I didn't get a last message. Please send it again today"
Definition #2,3,4.
Hey-there wasn't a last message.  You're not going to get it today, but if you keep asking for it today-there's always tomorrow.  I mean DAMN!  How old are you??  This is not a Jedi mind trick-this is some Bert & Ernie foolishness.  I'd like to go out on a limb and say you probably placed a phone call and said "Just wanted to see if you're phone was still working".  Simple chick-his phone works, your brain does not!  It's like you're raising your hand in a classroom full of empty desks.
Find a shrink.

"What's up u just stop talking to me i couldn't even get i'll talk to
u later, i'm busy i gets nothing from u"
 Definition #5,6,7,8.
If he stopped talking to YOU, why are YOU talking to him??  And what's so bad is that if he responded with ANY of the cracker jack answers YOU provided, you'd be perfectly content and back in love.  NOt only do you need to like YOU a little more, you need to slap your 3rd grade grammar teacher for passing you along in the system.

"If u feel like talking later hit me up luv...if not sleep well and talk to ya in the am...sweet dreamin of sum white chocolate!!"
Definition #1,6
You know, I bet you were REAL proud of yourself for this text.  Because in your simple mind you didn't sound too desperate, you gave him an OPTION.  How long did you stay up waiting for a reply or a phone call?  There might be some hope for you, but in the meantime-you need to also visit your 3rd grade grammar teacher...and sweetheart-nobody is dreaming about white chocolate.  Sorry.

Listen, let me tell you women what your main problem is.  You are looking for love in all the wrong places.  The first place you need to find love is with the person looking at you in YOUR mirror.  How can someone like let alone LOVE a damn thing about you when YOU don't like YOU?  SELF ESTEEM, SELF WORTH, SELF LOVE-it all comes from YOU.  It's FREE!  Nobody is going to go out of their way to try and please a chick that only wants a warm body-ANY WARM BODY-warming up her bed.  You think these men don't know that your desperation runs rampant with any men you encounter?

I don't care how good a man looks, I don't care what he has to offer-if he doesn't appreciate me for who I am, he can kick rocks!  LADIES...don't be the ROCKS these men are kicking when the real women like ME let them loose.  They know about chicks like you!  There are no boundaries, all you need is three seconds of attention, a text message a day, and a pat on the head...and off you go planning a wedding.  To the men that find these chicks-you are not excused.  You deserve all the drama you have coming to you.  That's what you get for lowering your standards and taking the easy way out.  I believe Simple Chick Jumpoff leads to Baby Mama Drama.  You are not excused.  You should have higher standards than dealing with a chick that's half a chromosome away from being retarded or brain dead.  If your mother didn't teach you better, she needs to read this blog too-cause she might be sending the texts we have reviewed as well.

Ladies-learn how to love YOU.  I mean really.  All the things you don't like about you, nobody else does either.  All the things you are insecure about, FIX THEM.  Find some damn strength and beauty in who you are, embrace it, and be the best YOU that you can be.  Not the best YOU with the man that you think defines you and somehow validates your purpose on this earth-unless that purpose is to be a doormat.

I heard a great word this past week and the speaker spoke about a woman who wanted to know what she could do to save her relationship.  He told her she was hearing the wrong things and saying the wrong things.  When one man says "SCAT CAT", there will be ANOTHER saying "HERE KITTY KITTY".  Stop settling for GOOD and wait for your BETTER!

LOVE YOU.  RESPECT YOU.  VALUE YOU...cause if you don't...there's a woman out there like me that loves herself, respects herself, and values herself more than any person can-and best believe I am laughing at YOU! Desperation has GOT to be a form of stupidity. If you aren't even smart enough to like YOU, I'm not really sure how you don't have troubles figuring out how to breathe.

Thirsty much?

Moni



This is the crap that happens when you get to the point of thinking that someone else in your life is required to make you a complete person. You give someone else the ability to determine if you're going to be happy, or worthwhile, or just being a convenient recepticle used by men for assisted masturbation. I'll be honest, I understand that, at times, that bio-clock gets to ticking with the subtlety of one of those 6-foot chinese gongs.

Sometimes you get so filled with the ability to love that you just need to give it to someone. The thing is, we guys have names for girls like that... we call them 'practice'.



Is that what you want to eternally be? Knowing you're the girl that'll be the one BEFORE he meets Mrs. Right? The female equivalent of 'Good Luck Chuck?'

Metaphyzxx


I am just going to keep it 100 what I am about to say is not going to be nice. I don't even offer much advice.

"When and if u ever feel like having some1in ur life other than a friend and I'm not in left field at the time and meet ur high standards mayb that will work out differently"

You obviously have a comprehension problem if a man tells you he wants to be just friends it will take a whole lot of alcohol/drugs for him to change his mind. Here is a newsflash for you Men are supposed to have high standards you have obviously failed one of them. You want a man that would just lower his standards for you? Are you dense, what if we did that for everything? You know what I know that this plane should have a grade bolts but lets just use c grade bolts today because I don't want to cause YOU any trouble.

"What the heck? Seriously I'm just fuckin wit u about anything happening between us I know what time it is. Never is never wit u! But at least u can feel good knowing sum1 tells u sweet things"

You #fail at subtly you SCREAM desperate and No sane man will ever reply and confirm your words because he will be stalked. You are killing yourself fishing for compliments. stop trying to turn this around on him, it's not him it's you that is the problem.

"Ok, I want a day and a night with u that's all. I'm asking for a milebut I think its do able if u down..."

If a man can't be with you for a whole day you are either incredibly boring, or incredibly annoying. If he was down then you wouldn't have to send this text. This is the same reason your puppy ran away when you were 4.

"Hey I didn't get a last message. Please send it again today"

You didn't get my last message because none was sent. After the 5th time sending this message you would think you would get that clue. I know they say "ask and you shall receive" they were not talking to you. k thanks

"What's up u just stop talking to me i couldn't even get i'll talk to u later, i'm busy i gets nothing from u"

As we see from this text the reason they don't talk to you is because you a blithering idiot. You are unable to form the most simple of sentences. How can you be expected to teach a child his ABC's. Go read a book, immediately.

"If u feel like talking later hit me up luv...if not sleep well and talk to ya in the am...sweet dreamin of sum white chocolate!!"

No, go to sleep forever if you are expecting to get text from me when you wake up. White chocolate is cloying and sweet and most people hate it.

Sorry I don't have any advise on how not to be stupid and desperate.

Mr. Superstar



Well as always, The Friends' hold no punches, but they have left some valuable words of wisdom for the women that are so, SO desperate! In conclusion, to our desperate chicks: nobody finds your behavior amusing, acceptable, or even intelligent. Let's explore and commit to some exercises in self love, shall we?? We certainly don't want you to continue doing your part to just be "Good Luck Chicks". HA!


Check back soon as some of the other Friends' may weigh in-but we just HAD to get this out sooner than later. Oh, we only have one more thing to tell you:

YOU HAVE BEEN TOLD!!

Readers, what do you think? Do you agree with the Friends'? We don't expect any DC's to admit their flaws here in this open forum-but we hope we have helped. Thank you for reading. Off to the comments you go...
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