The Friends Inbox-Fairly ODD-parents??
Dear Friends,
Question: How do you deal with God-Parents that your spouse chose (and the rest of the family) that are hood? Tacky? Have questionable judgment??
What would you do if they wanted your kids to say overnight?
Anonymous (Via anonymous e-mail submission)
If you knew you would be out of town for an extended period, would you let these people have your keys to start your car? If not why would you entrust them with the care and feeding of your progeny when you are dead. Secondly, why would you marry someone that would make a choice
that important ( I will forgo calling attention to the idiotic mention of other family members choosing YOUR children's godparents) you didn't approve of? I personally would pick some other godparents that would be the go to people in case I expired. For your second question, I think that you should let them stay over their house as long as you feel it's safe. Kids need to be shown how good they have it, and they need to be exposed to different classes of people. They are going to encounter hood people and tacky people in their lives and if they don't know how to identify it how can they stop themselves form being it.
Mr. Superstar
Depends on how out of whack these 'God-parents' are. I mean, by hood, are we talking functionally streetwise, drug-dealer, or straight up "BET-level ghetto" or "CMT-grade trailer-trash". Do these people know both parents well enough to convey what we were both about to a growing child, or are we just testing the saying "bad company corrupts good character?" I wouldn't mind my son growing up being able to function in an urban environment, but at the same time, I want him to know it's better to have Gold in his investment portfolio than in his mouth. I'd rather the person raising my child teaches him to spend money on artwork instead of spinning rims. My son needs to grow up learning how to be a regal black man... not an effin' coon. SO if the question is, would you have issues with "Ol' Sleep-n-Eat" raising my kids... then hell yeah I would.
As for staying overnight, I might not have too many issues, provided that he knew how to keep in touch, and that he understood OUR family's ethics and fundamentals. If their 2 year-old has Wild Turkey in the sippy cup... we've got a problem. If the 4 year-old has a cell phone, and is constantly taking calls, I might have issues. If the 10 year-old doesn't have a doctor's note for taking up two whole pillows on the couch, with the third one covered in Cheetoes bags, while watching his third Spongebob marathon, then yeah... we might have to evaluate that overnight. But I'm not picky.
Metaphyzxx
Dear So So Hood,
Two words for ya: YOUR FAULT! We can't always choose the family we are born into, but we can definitely choose the family we inherit/marry into. People don't turn tacky or hood overnight. These people were just as hood back when you decided you wanted to be a part of that family, so don't start acting all sortsa brand new now that the kids are here. And what's this about your husband being the one to choose the Godparents anyway? Last I checked, decisions like that should be joint decisions, so if you chose to sit back passively and act as a bystander in this important decision then you should not now complain about the decision you allowed to be made. With that said, these poor children already have enough adults with questionable judgment in their lives (namely you and your husband), so if you can avoid exposing them to even more, it is your duty as a mother. Start standing up for them now as you should have before. This begins with a serious convo between you and your husband about the future of your children and how and who will be allowed to influence their lives.
She
When I read this, I am wondering if your children have two sets of Godparents. I'm going to assume that if your spouse chose HOOD God-parents, you are married to a HOOD. From a parent with LOTS of dealings with legal proceedings in regard to children-I'd have to say that nowadays the title "GOD-PARENT" is more or less just that-a title. Sort of like how your kids have 10-20 aunts/uncles on each side that haven't ever been related to you. Legally, if something happens to you I highly doubt a judge in a court of LAW in most of the upper 48 are going to look for the Godparents. Now, if you have differing views on who or what is good examples for your children, I'd venture to say that the upbringing of your children is also a hot topic for discussion-but that's for another day.
I wouldn't be opposed to my child staying the night at a house like this provided they are old enough to dial the numbers on the cell phone I provide and form complete sentences such as "I haven't ate since yesterday", "It always smells like pinecones", "I locked the door when they left", "They fit my mouth for a grill", "I whooped God-mama, God-daddy's ass in Grand Theft Auto" etc. If upon staying the night your children greets you with something like "WHASSUP BITCHES" I would assume you and your spouse would see the err in your ways.
There is nothing wrong with letting your children see DIFFERENT lifestyles. I think it is important to stress that things that are different are not wrong, they are just DIFFERENT. As your children get older, I would definitely use the DIFFERENCES as threats of punishment. ("Remember how long it took them to feed you? I will let them BUY YOU that grill! You like ramen noodles and hotsauce!!??!)
I am a firm believer that it is important that we teach our children that their life experiences may not be that of others, and that is the reason to appreciate what they have, and work hard to get to where they want to be. There is a lesson in every experience. After all, when your children get of age-the hoodrat family members are a perfect example for why birth control and higher education are so important.
Moni
How do you deal with god-parents that your spouse
chose (and the rest of the family) that are hood? tacky? have
questionable judgment?
We would have a serious sit down.We would both have to agree on who the God Parents would be, because this is a serious assignment.People think being a God parent is extra gifts at birthdays and Christmas.It really is the couple that is going to take care of your kids should you die.
What would do you do if they wanted your kids to stay overnight?
No, no and NO.
A.J.
Ok, Anonymous a.k.a. So-So Hood. The Friends have spoken and:
YOU HAVE BEEN TOLD!
Thoughts, comments? To the comment thread we go!
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Question: How do you deal with God-Parents that your spouse chose (and the rest of the family) that are hood? Tacky? Have questionable judgment??
What would you do if they wanted your kids to say overnight?
Anonymous (Via anonymous e-mail submission)
If you knew you would be out of town for an extended period, would you let these people have your keys to start your car? If not why would you entrust them with the care and feeding of your progeny when you are dead. Secondly, why would you marry someone that would make a choice
that important ( I will forgo calling attention to the idiotic mention of other family members choosing YOUR children's godparents) you didn't approve of? I personally would pick some other godparents that would be the go to people in case I expired. For your second question, I think that you should let them stay over their house as long as you feel it's safe. Kids need to be shown how good they have it, and they need to be exposed to different classes of people. They are going to encounter hood people and tacky people in their lives and if they don't know how to identify it how can they stop themselves form being it.
Mr. Superstar
Depends on how out of whack these 'God-parents' are. I mean, by hood, are we talking functionally streetwise, drug-dealer, or straight up "BET-level ghetto" or "CMT-grade trailer-trash". Do these people know both parents well enough to convey what we were both about to a growing child, or are we just testing the saying "bad company corrupts good character?" I wouldn't mind my son growing up being able to function in an urban environment, but at the same time, I want him to know it's better to have Gold in his investment portfolio than in his mouth. I'd rather the person raising my child teaches him to spend money on artwork instead of spinning rims. My son needs to grow up learning how to be a regal black man... not an effin' coon. SO if the question is, would you have issues with "Ol' Sleep-n-Eat" raising my kids... then hell yeah I would.
As for staying overnight, I might not have too many issues, provided that he knew how to keep in touch, and that he understood OUR family's ethics and fundamentals. If their 2 year-old has Wild Turkey in the sippy cup... we've got a problem. If the 4 year-old has a cell phone, and is constantly taking calls, I might have issues. If the 10 year-old doesn't have a doctor's note for taking up two whole pillows on the couch, with the third one covered in Cheetoes bags, while watching his third Spongebob marathon, then yeah... we might have to evaluate that overnight. But I'm not picky.
Metaphyzxx
Dear So So Hood,
Two words for ya: YOUR FAULT! We can't always choose the family we are born into, but we can definitely choose the family we inherit/marry into. People don't turn tacky or hood overnight. These people were just as hood back when you decided you wanted to be a part of that family, so don't start acting all sortsa brand new now that the kids are here. And what's this about your husband being the one to choose the Godparents anyway? Last I checked, decisions like that should be joint decisions, so if you chose to sit back passively and act as a bystander in this important decision then you should not now complain about the decision you allowed to be made. With that said, these poor children already have enough adults with questionable judgment in their lives (namely you and your husband), so if you can avoid exposing them to even more, it is your duty as a mother. Start standing up for them now as you should have before. This begins with a serious convo between you and your husband about the future of your children and how and who will be allowed to influence their lives.
She
When I read this, I am wondering if your children have two sets of Godparents. I'm going to assume that if your spouse chose HOOD God-parents, you are married to a HOOD. From a parent with LOTS of dealings with legal proceedings in regard to children-I'd have to say that nowadays the title "GOD-PARENT" is more or less just that-a title. Sort of like how your kids have 10-20 aunts/uncles on each side that haven't ever been related to you. Legally, if something happens to you I highly doubt a judge in a court of LAW in most of the upper 48 are going to look for the Godparents. Now, if you have differing views on who or what is good examples for your children, I'd venture to say that the upbringing of your children is also a hot topic for discussion-but that's for another day.
I wouldn't be opposed to my child staying the night at a house like this provided they are old enough to dial the numbers on the cell phone I provide and form complete sentences such as "I haven't ate since yesterday", "It always smells like pinecones", "I locked the door when they left", "They fit my mouth for a grill", "I whooped God-mama, God-daddy's ass in Grand Theft Auto" etc. If upon staying the night your children greets you with something like "WHASSUP BITCHES" I would assume you and your spouse would see the err in your ways.
There is nothing wrong with letting your children see DIFFERENT lifestyles. I think it is important to stress that things that are different are not wrong, they are just DIFFERENT. As your children get older, I would definitely use the DIFFERENCES as threats of punishment. ("Remember how long it took them to feed you? I will let them BUY YOU that grill! You like ramen noodles and hotsauce!!??!)
I am a firm believer that it is important that we teach our children that their life experiences may not be that of others, and that is the reason to appreciate what they have, and work hard to get to where they want to be. There is a lesson in every experience. After all, when your children get of age-the hoodrat family members are a perfect example for why birth control and higher education are so important.
Moni
How do you deal with god-parents that your spouse
chose (and the rest of the family) that are hood? tacky? have
questionable judgment?
We would have a serious sit down.We would both have to agree on who the God Parents would be, because this is a serious assignment.People think being a God parent is extra gifts at birthdays and Christmas.It really is the couple that is going to take care of your kids should you die.
What would do you do if they wanted your kids to stay overnight?
No, no and NO.
A.J.
Ok, Anonymous a.k.a. So-So Hood. The Friends have spoken and:
YOU HAVE BEEN TOLD!
Thoughts, comments? To the comment thread we go!
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